Recently, I found myself standing in my kitchen watching the appliance repair man attempt to fix my broken freezer. He dropped the bomb of the cost of this repair and the price of the heater that the freezer apparently needed (because clearly a freezer needs a heater). As the man was waiting for an answer, and a feeling crept in that I should start looking for a grown up to make this decision. Do I buy the freezer heater? Do I buy a new refrigerator? Why does the freezer need a heater in the first place? And, most importantly, where is the adult to make a decision in this situation?
So many times being the grown up feels like one big decision after another, and it’s not a secret that I despise decision making. The decisions are so much harder than PB & J or hummus and pretzels, Batman or Superman, and pigtails or ponytail. You can find my blog posts about the hard times for grown ups all over this blog. Today I want to instead point out that some things about being a grown up, despite the tough decision making, are actually pretty great.
Great things about being a Grown Up (not rocket science, but good to remember)-
- No limits on screen time. Binge out on a Fixer Upper/The Walking Dead/Real Housewives/Ultimate Fighter marathon? Yes, please. Grown ups don’t have to bargain for extra media time, we are in charge of our own media consumption. Just consider electronics being allowed in the bathroom. Enough said.
- Go to bed when when you want. That might be 2 a.m. That might be 15 mins after your kids crash at 8:00. You choose. Early bedtime might even become a reward rather than a consequence.
- Vacations. As the grown-up, you get to pick where you go. I’ll also argue that vacations feel even better for grown-ups because everyday life is harder and generally more exhausting. I’ve heard that when you work hard, you can rest solid. (And don’t confuse vacation with a “family trip.” That’s not what I’m talking about.)
- Cookies/Ice cream/Candy. A friend once shared she is still surprised that at age 32 she can pretty much have ice cream whenever she wants. Health issues aside, if a grownup wants a cookie, she doesn’t really need permission. A kid? Not so lucky.
- Driving. You can drive, and therefore can pick the music selection. Or perhaps the NPR selection.
- Peer pressure just isn’t such a big deal. Grown-ups also realize that you can have very little in common with someone and still be their friend. Friends first showed us that when a designer clothing buyer fell for a paleontologist. Big Bang Theory has been singing this tune all the way to the bank for 9 seasons.
- Coffee. Alcohol. Essentially, vices are at your disposal.
- Getting Sick. Hear me out. Nobody questions a grown up when they say their tummy hurts. They just believe that they will take care of it. A grown up can properly blow her nose, cover her mouth when she coughs, rest, and get over a cold. How frustrating must it be to not know how to blow your nose?!
- You can choose your friends. Little kids often get thrown together with the children of their parent’s friends even if they have little in common besides from being under 18. Even when they are old enough to pick their own friends, kids have to rely on grownups to arrange or approve playdates, drive them to friends’ houses, and decide when the playing will end. Grownups get to pick their friends, plan to see them when they want, and do what they want with them.
- Hindsight. Grown ups are old enough to have made mistakes, to remember how things used to be, and appreciate how they are now.
I know that this is a very “fluffy” list. But today I need fluffy. I’m fully aware that this list of grown up benefits reads like lifestyles of the middle class in America. I can own that today, too.
And I can own that I liked being a kid, but I like being a grown up, too.
What do you love about being a grown up?